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Building Supportive Environments

Learn how to create a supportive and nurturing environment for your children during and after separation

Creating a supportive and nurturing environment for your children during and after separation or divorce is essential for their well-being.   Every situation is different, here are some tips to support you in building an environment that creates a stable and supportive environment, helping them to adjust and thrive, despite the challenges.


Maintain a positive co-parenting relationship

Foster a positive co-parenting relationship with your ex-partner based on mutual respect, communication and co-operation.  Work together to ensure consistency and stability across households.


Prioritise your children's needs

Keep your children's needs and feelings at the forefront of your decision -making.  Consider how each decision will impact them emotionally, mentally and physically.


Provide reassurance and emotional support

Reassure your children that they are loved and supported by both parents, despite the changes in the family structure.  Encourage open communication and provide a safe space for them to express their feelings and concerns.


Maintain Routines and Stability

Establish consistent routines and schedules for your children, both during and after the divorce or separation.  Predictability and stability can provide a sense of security during times of change.


Encourage Healthy Coping Strategies

Teach your children healthy coping strategies to manage their emotions and navigate the challenges of divorce or separation.  Encourage activities that promote self-expression, relaxation and stress relief.


Be honest and age-appropriate

Be honest with your children about the divorce of separation, using age-appropriate language and explanations.  Provide reassurance and answer their questions truthfully, while avoiding unnecessary details or blame.


Avoid conflict in front of your children

Minimise conflict and avoid arguing in front of your children.  Shield them from adult conflicts and disagreements to maintain a sense of security and stability.


Create a supportive network 

Surround your children with a supportive network of family members, friends, teachers, and other trusted adults who can provide additional love, guidance and support .


Take care of yourself

Prioritise your own well-being and self-care, as your own emotional and mental health directly impact your ability to support your children.  Seek support from friends, family or professional therapist if needed.


Celebrate family traditions and milestones

Continue to celebrate family traditions and milestones, even if they look different after the divorce or separation.  Create new traditions and memories that reinforce the bond between you and your children. 

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